So as I mentioned in a previous post, after much thought and research I have decided to go natural. I have been getting relaxers (chemical straighteners) in my hair since I was 9 or 10. I really can’t remember what my natural hair looks like because it’s been so long so this will be a very interesting experience.
Now I’ve actually been thinking about it off and on for a couple years but last year I began to think about it more seriously. Much of the reasoning for me not doing it was because of a lack of support either from my family, partners, friends who had tried it and had a terrible experience etc. However in the past few weeks I have begun to do much more research on the transition experience. I’ve discovered blogs, websites, and contacting friends that have transitioned to natural hair. Before I decided for sure if I was going to do it, I asked my “manfriend” about it. Some might think it’s silly that a man’s opinion would matter that much to me, but it’s nice to know whether or not someone’s feelings toward you are going to change due to a change such as this. I also saw it as kind of a test to see if something superficial as hair was a deal breaker, because for many it is. I must say that so far he has been the most supportive person thus far. I won’t get it to the mushiness that he said but it was very sweet and made me feel much better about my decision.
So for the past few weeks I’ve been researching like crazy. Once my hair grows out and I cut the relaxed ends off it will almost be like having a new head of hair and I’d like to start preparing how to take care of it now as opposed to freaking out later on and possibly getting frustrated and going back to relaxers. I must say that through my research I have finally seen how useful Youtube is. I only really use it to find certain songs or to look at funny videos like Chubby Cuppy Cake Boy.
Some of the things that I’ve learned is that there is a lot of lingo that is used to refer to natural hair. TWA, BAA, BC, Co-wash, Cones, Sealing, Pre-pooing, etc. I’ve also learned that I’m well on my way to becoming a product junkie. I’ve always had a fascination with beauty products anyways (moisturizers, anti-aging creams, anti-puffers, pore minimizers, etc) if it looked interesting I had to try it. Probably one of the reasons why I try to buy all of my products from Sephora online as opposed to in the store where I also leave with some weird concoction. But anyhow, in all of my excitement I decided to fill my Mom in on my decision. I mean the next time she saw me I would either have a little afro or some transitioning style. Plus I still like to get my mom’s approval on things.
So when I told my mom my decision, I didn’t get the reaction I was expecting. I told her that I had decided to go natural. Her first response was, “Are you trying to save money?” No. Although the question kind of irritated me I’m sure it’s once I will probably get again so I guess I should get used to hearing it. I’ve been paying to get my own hair done for years now. Although I will be saving money by not getting relaxers, I guarantee I will be spending it on other things. Her next comment was something along the lines of, “Well don’t come home looking like some African Bonquisha. All nappy and stuff, I don’t like that. And don’t you wear your hair like that. Are you going to get a hot come to straighten it out? You can still blow dry it and flat iron it.” I guess there are many people who go natural yet continue to keep their hair straight by pressing it and straightening it. I personally don’t see the point in going natural because you are still damaging your hair with heat but to each his own. At this point in the conversation I was frustrated and annoyed. I didn’t get the response that I was looking for from my mom. I had wished that she would have just said, “Well good for you.” Even if she didn’t agree with it, but she’s entitled to her opinion and I somewhat expected her opposition to my decision.
One of the things that a friend told me is to be prepared for negative comments from people on your decision. I can honestly say that I’m still happy with my decision. I don’t particularly care what others have to say, and I think that is one of the big differences between my transitioning this time around. Now I have the confidence to do what is best for me and take the opinions of others with a grain of salt. 🙂